Please Read

Today’s admin post is not Tudor related, but its something that hits home for me, and I suspect far to many people who may read this. But that is exactly why I’m writing it.

Five years ago, on November 11th, 2013, my father died from cancer. Although he lived four hours away from me, I was fortunate enough to get home to be with him. Prior to his passing, he spent months in my city getting his radiation treatments, even driving the four hours back home on the weekends despite the doctors telling him they believed he would likely be admitted to the hospital with a feeding tube due to the weight loss expected from the treatments towards (he was already very thin).

He wasn’t admitted. He didn’t get a feeding tube. My dad finished his treatments, and got to go home. He was in the hospital afterwards, for other reasons, but always got day passes and was able to live a semi-regular life.

I last saw my dad the week before he passed. I wanted to surprise my parents by coming home. I remember walking into the house, he came up from the basement where he was doing laundry to check on food he was cooking. Without hesitation gave me a hug. In my family, we don’t hug much, if at all. This was the first time since I was a kid I remember hugging my dad, and I’ll never forget it. That weekend I was home, he seemed so full of life, I had no idea it would be the last time I would talk to him.

Why am I writing this?

Too many people have their own cancer story. Whether it’s something they experienced themselves, or watched a family member/friend go through it. We all know someone.

In September, I’m doing a 50km+ bike ride called Ride for Cancer, and as part of it my aim is to raise $1000. I’m not only riding in memory of my dad, but also for anyone who has passed, and anyone who is currently going through it now.

If you’re interested in helping me reach my goal, you can click here. If you just want to talk to someone about what you’re going through, I’m an email away.

I sincerely appreciate anyone who has taken a second to read this post.

Yours,
Melissa

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I'm a lover of all things Tudor, and historical - fiction or fact. My aim is to bring together writers of all calibers to share their work with like minded people!

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  1. Hi Melissa, At last I have got round to making a donation for your Ride for Cancer – I imagine you will receive some notification of this. This is such a good cause and while I am encouraged by your selflessness, I am also so sorry and sad to hear that your Dad succumbed to cancer. He must have still been relatively young and no doubt endured a lot with the treatment which is never easy to tolerate and can give some unpleasant side effects. It is a horrible disease and I remember how ill Paul’s Dad was with lung cancer which took him quite quickly – 6 months to the day from the date he was given the diagnosis. I am sure you and all your family were as devastated when your Dad was given his diagnosis and it must have also hit your Mom very hard. Though he did receive treatment, it certainly didn’t provide a cure, but I hope it did prolong his life. Therefore, more research is needed into all possible cancer treatments, together with early detection, and this organised ride is sure to boost funds for all this. In January last year two friends, both of whom I’d known about 60 years, died from stomach cancer, having received chemo and other forms of treatment which did give them a few more years. Krystina passed away a week before her 67th birthday, Celia at the age of 86 and I miss them both so much. In July my friend’s daughter, Charlotte, died having battled breast cancer for 4 years, and gone through so much in that time. She was diagnosed a few months after her daughter was born which seemed even more tragic for such a young woman. We were all devastated and her family are all still trying to come to terms with their loss but life will never be the same for them, of course. Her husband feels so lost and unable to cope easily and so both sets of grandparents are helping to look after Florence who had to start school in September without her Mum. I still cry whenever I think about this awful situation and wonder why this had to happen to this lovely family and hope in future no family will have to go through this as cancer will be easily and painlessly eradicated with early detection and treatment, resulting from all the research funded from across the world. I have been intending to make this donation for the last few days but have had computer problems so haven’t been online much. As a result, I am behind with reading the ATWC contributions but will catch up soon and leave comments, as usual.  I do hope your fundraising reaches the $1,000 goal well before September, and even exceeds it. Good luck with it all and thank you for taking part in the ride. I shall be thinking of you and your Dad, with the photo you have posted in mind.  I shall be in touch again soon. With all good wishes, my friend, Lauretta (Chasqui)

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